Kids are green enough to see a mountain where there’s a hill. In other words, they tend to experience a change at higher levels than reality offers them. Therefore, the transition from utmost freedom to the daily grind of school can take quite an emotional toll on them. However, parents can be there for them and ease up their anxiety. After all, the school can be a pleasant experience as long as both parents and kids focus on positive events. Let’s see how you can help your kids to cope with their feelings before they get out of control.
Once the Summer Ends, Kids Feel There Will Be Less Enjoyable Moments and More Social Pressure to Fit in
Teen clinical psychologist Dr. Barbara Greenberg has noticed some drastic changes once August kicks in. While back days kids used to enjoy every second of their summer vacation freedom, today’s bright minds are struggling with anxiety as soon as July ends.
“I’m seeing more and more kids, and many are feeling they’re behind before they even start.”
The major problems concern sports turning into more competitive chore with fewer fun moments and social pressure to fit in becoming more toxic than ever. Instagram and Snapchat are two of the most damaging social media platforms. They are both focusing on taking photos instead of posting text messages.
As a consequence, kids begin comparing themselves with others. This mindset leads to deteriorated mental health, body issues, depression, and others.
You Can Help Your Kids by Being Supportive and Keeping Your Own Emotions in Check
Nonetheless, parents can be there to support their family members. There are several things you can do to help your kids. First and foremost, adults should keep track of their feelings. Many parents add fuel to kids’ anxiety as they fear they can’t cope academically or socially.
On top of that, they can recall their own unpleasant school memories. As a consequence, they send their kids negative vibes which intensify anxiety. Instead of focusing on worst case scenario, parents can help their kids understand that this period can be a pleasant experience as well.
Therefore, parents should see the back-to-school moment as a fresh start for their kids and not a reiteration of their own experience. They are advised to set reasonable expectations and praise their kids for their efforts and not the grades they receive.
Dr. Greenberg is also encouraging parents to validate the feelings that their kids are experiencing. Finding an understanding person in their parents is going to lift kids’ trust in their own powers. It is recommended for parents to let them know that it is normal to experience negative emotions.
Once kids understand that their deep emotions are part of the process, it is time to give them something to look forward to. There might be long, boring homework waiting for them, but how about enrolling them in that club that they are excited about? All in all, you can help your kids by reassuring them that you believe in them and their chances to succeed at school.
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